I was called out two weeks ago by another Mum when I said no to joining her taking the kids Trick or Treating. I wasn’t rude, I simply told her that it’s not something I want my daughter taking part in. You know what she said? She said I was unfair. That my daughter was missing out because of my decision.
I was going to save this post until Halloween itself, but having seen a few other bloggers sharing similar thoughts, I decided to publish it now. Maybe there’s still time to convince you not to take your little monsters out on the hunt this year. Below are my reasons for not allowing my daughter to take part:
- It’s Expensive. Halloween has been completely commercialised. The costumes, the make up, the swag bags and the sweets, it all adds up! I don’t want to sound cheap, but Christmas is round the corner and I’m saving my money for that, thank you.
- It’s Unhealthy. If you’re anything like me you spend a good deal of time trying to make sure your kids are eating at least a semi-healthy diet. Fussy eating aside, the one thing you can keep an eye on is how much sugary rubbish they are taking in. Halloween leaves them with a small mountain of sugary crap, and what do you do with that exactly? Ration it? Good luck dealing with that tantrum.
- It’s Rude. Well it is, isn’t it? Knocking on doors begging, and threatening mischief (some of which is a homeowner’s worst nightmare) if you don’t get what you want isn’t an acceptable practice any other day of the year. If someone knocked on your door in a mask in June and demanded something from you, or else, I have no doubt that you would call the police.
- It’s Scary. No I don’t mean the costumes, although some of them are a bit much for kids. I mean for people like me, who have anxiety, as well as the elderly and less able, a knock on the door after dark is really, really scary. Trying to opt out by not decorating, leaving the lights off or even leaving the house has me even more worried that without the option for the Treat, they will go straight for the Trick. Older, unsurpervised kids in particular.
- It’s Inconvenient. My Gran goes to bed at 8.30. I myself aim for 9.30. I know for a fact that in my area, Trick or Treat can go on until after 11pm. Who wants to be woken at that time on a Monday night?? (Halloween is a Monday this year).
- It’s Cold. My daughter has a bad chest. Then again, all kids are prone to cold, flu and viral/chest infections in winter. I can’t justify walking a young child around the neighbourhood for an hour at the end of October, and before you say “Just put a coat on them” have you ever tried getting a five year old to wear a coat over a costume? They won’t.
- There’s No Moral. Halloween doesn’t teach our kids anything. Christmas teaches of Christ for Christians, and of giving and togetherness for families of no faith like mine. Bonfire night has a historical background, as does Valentine’s day and Easter has a religious backdrop too. Though there are many stories about the origins of All Hallow’s Eve, and what it represents, they have been lost in the sounds of supermarket tills ringing up costumes and kids demanding sweets.
So there you have it. I could probably think of even more if I really wanted to, but those are my reasons.
On Halloween, me and my daughter will be holed up at my father’s house with some homemade carrot cake and hot chocolate, watching a Scooby Doo film, and she will enjoy it just as much if not more than wandering around in the cold bothering all the neighbours.
How does your family celebrate Halloween?